“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love”
Life can be so difficult sometimes and I’m reminded that we all need to respect one another, for our similarities, differences, struggles and triumphs.
I’m currently in a difficult season with an Alzheimer’s Disease diagnosis for an aging parent. As the short term memory slips away and simple daily tasks become cumbersome; an inability to reason and problem solve; and the long-term memory reminding him that he still “has it all going on” I’m faced with the need for patience and ongoing respect. Being a medical professional I’ve worked with clients and families going through the same situation, however, I have a newfound respect for all of them, as I find myself actually “living” it now, as they have done.
This is a man who’s provided for his family, been reliable, supportive and loving. He’s now faced with the need for 24-hour caregivers, money management tasks being performed by someone other than himself and being reminded that he isn’t making good decisions. So hard to take and just as hard to have to explain.
I must remember to respect who he was and who he is today, while providing for his needs that he is no longer able to manage himself, all while remaining patient, even if I’m hearing the same story for the 100th time. I want to allow him as much freedom and independence as possible, for as long as possible, while managing to maintain a safe environment for him as well.
Prayer guides me, communication with family confirms me, and knowing God holds me in his precious hands to provide me (and dad) the hedge of protection we need, sustains me.
God, thank you for your ongoing guidance, every day.